A Shortcut to Getting Unstuck, Gaining Clarity and Moving Forward in Business
9 months ago
“I gotta keep it super real wit ya, shooorrtttaaay.”
It seems every time I sit down to write a post a song lyric pops into my head that relates to what I want to dig into. This one compliments of PartyNextDoor. 🙂
Before I jump into a little back story:
This is a post that’s been a few months in the making and I reached a point of clarity where I can finally get across the thought. To be honest, I’m apprehensive to share, but I believe my thought process can resonate with someone experiencing the same dilemma.
And my goal here with everything I write is to be helpful.
At the beginning of the year, I wrestled with where I want to take my business. A lot of thinking and not much doing.
Do you know that feeling?
At this point, I’ve reached a comfortable point in my freelance business and blog where I don’t feel like I’m always playing catch up, but I also want to expand.
And it’s still not easy, peasy lemon squeezy.
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You can get stuck in your own head, overthink and succumb to shiny object syndrome when there’s always a brand new product poppin’ up to revolutionize your business.
But, I’m here to tell you:
There’s no secret you don’t know to making a bazillion dollars.
If you’re comparing your results to someone else and falling short, you’re not a failure.
If you’re doing what feels like the same thing others are doing and you’re still not seeing results, there’s not something wrong with you.
The problem is discovering what you can excel at and run with it to move forward.
Here’s how I know:
My Rollercoaster Ride
I thought something was wrong with me for a while.
On paper, I was doing everything right. I was getting freelance jobs. People liked my work. I even was balls to the wall when I first started freelancing. Being seen anywhere and everywhere online.
It never failed, though.
Whenever I hit a milestone or experimented with a way to take it to the next level, I would fall back. In between spurts of energy, I felt stagnant and stuck. I wasn’t being consistent.
I started getting a sketchy vibe from some online business sales tactics and programs I felt were unethical. I was subconsciously concerned some of it would rub off on me and I would build a business I didn’t feel proud of. So I just stopped doing stuff entirely.
I noticed at one point I was turning down more jobs than taking them. I was coming up with ideas and then ditching them. I questioned my work ethic.
I couldn’t help noticing the same tendencies in my past college and professional life. I worked my butt off in school to finish strong. I hunted down and landed pretty bomb internships and then jobs after college.
But, I left each one.
Don’t get me wrong, I tried to stay in positions for as long as I could. I wanted desperately to save face.I noticed some parallels forming between my past life and freelance biz. The stops and starts. I didn’t really know where to go next.
Until I took the Myer’s Briggs personality test and shiite started to make sense.
My brain became less sticky.
The Personality Test – *Dum, Dum, Dum*.
The Myer’s Briggs test is super nifty. I honestly don’t know how they’ve come up with a test so accurate. It breaks down personalities into a spectrum. There are 16 personality types. And you get your personality type by choosing your preferences in certain areas like extraversion/introversion and thinking/feeling.
Here they are in more detail from Myersbriggs.org:
- Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I).
- Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).
- Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).
- Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).
After you choose your preferences the letters together make up your personality type. You can read what your type is all about at 16personalities.com. (Don’t worry this isn’t an affiliate link. Not plugging the website. I just like it that much.)
16personalities.com has a free test you can take instead of choosing your letters which I think is a liiiiiittle more helpful. This site isn’t the “real” Myer’s Briggs test, though. If you want very detailed test results you’ll have to purchase the test.
The Connection Between Your Personality and Business
I found out my type is INFP – introvert, intuitive, feeling, perceiving – and it was like a eureka moment. The overview of the personality on the site directly reflects each of my strong and weak points through my 9 to 5 jobs and freelance career. And most importantly it gives me some clues why I overthink certain things so I can make adjustments.
The test was so accurate I was creeped out when I read it.
INFP’s are known to be highly idealistic pursuing careers for satisfaction instead of money and hopping around hunting for the right fit. Some hopping around for their entire life without settling down <- This thought is petrifying by the way.
But, when passionate about something, INFP’s will go all in and can be highly focused on projects of the moment (i.e. landing that internship, dream job or making it as a freelancer).
At times, they take idealism too far leading to disappointment (i.e. not sticking with things of the moment if they’re not meeting satisfaction expectations). INFP’s are creative and good at expressing themselves in writing. Speaking isn’t their thang.
At first, I had mixed thoughts about getting this personality type. I wanted to take the test again and get something else.
It’s not the flashy entrepreneur, super organized manager, amazing leader or one that makes the most money on the spectrum. (In fact, there are forums dedicated to how terrible it is to be an INFP on a never ending chase for meaning.)
Still, since taking the test at the beginning of the year, I have much more of an understanding, appreciation and acceptance for how I operate and how I can turn it into opportunities for my business.
The clarity is amazing.
For example, I could not for the life of me understand why virtual assisting and social media management were such epic fails for me until now. I hated it. Ongoing assisting without what feels like a finished product is just not my forte. But, in some respects, I kept doing it which kept me stuck.
Instead, working towards a finished project for clients/customers/followers that I believe is ridiculously helpful or valuable is where I thrive. Knowing this now I need to continue doing more of it on a larger scale for clients and my own business rather than flittering around launching stuff that doesn’t speak to my strong points.
Lastly, when it comes to building up my own site and brand, I’m good at networking one-on-one and online. Seriously, if you meet me one-on-one you’ll swear I’m an extrovert. But, I’m not that person who’s super comfortable with huge audiences speaking in person or video.
At least not yet. I plan to work on it.
This could mean I won’t reach a certain level of exposure in the near future.
That’s OK for me.
I’m a writer. I can stunt on ’em with my words for now.
(If you struggle with this too, stay tuned for a special announcement at the end of this month 🙂 !)
Why I’m Sharing All of This With You
I gave you a bunch of information here.
Some of it personal. Some of it you may judge me for. I’m prepared for that.
I just want you to know if you’re thinking, “what’s wrong with me,” you’re not the only one.
If your body is resisting the moves that you “want to make” maybe those aren’t the right moves for you.
You don’t need to bang your head against the wall if you’re not excelling at something you wish you could. Or stick to something you think you should be extremely good at. Maybe you’re wasting your potential on something that’s not the right fit.
Earlier this year, I read the book Leap by Tess Vigelandwhich I recommend. She was a successful radio personality that took the leap from a cushy, six-figure job with no Plan B and felt similar struggles. If she, a well known personality with tons of connections, can relate to the ups and down of finding where you fit into the puzzle, we’re in good company.
Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole is frustrating as hell. Skip that step.
Take a personality test to find out what approach you should take in freelancing, business or your career. And find out if what you’re currently working towards is the best use of your gifts.
Trust me, it makes a world of difference.
I’d love to have a conversation about this. Have you taken the Myer’s Briggs personality test? What’s your personality type and how has it helped you in business or the career you chose?
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