I’ve seen a lot of bloggers do posts on advice for their past self.
I figured what the hell why don’t I post one.
After all, I have a lot of knowledge today about hustling for more money now that I didn’t know in the past. It would have saved me a bunch of trial and error if my “ghost of side hustling Taylor yet to come” spilled the beans on this stuff from the get-go.
So I go to write this post today and remember something craaaaazy…
I already tried advising my past self at a party this summer and she didn’t have time for it.
No lie. I met myself in the flesh a few months ago. I tried to give her advice. It didn’t work.
Here’s what happened.
I was minding my own business at a rooftop party when this woman comes up to me and starts talking hair care. Of course, I can go on for days on this topic because I just figured out how to control my curly hair about 6 months ago.
She mentions that her daughter is about to go off to college, has hair like mine, and has no idea what to do with it.
“Let me go get her,” she says. “You guys need to meet.”
She darts off into the crowd, comes back with this shy teenage girl, and then disappears again leaving us alone to chat. As soon as she opens her mouth, I realize it’s me.
She hates her curly hair. Check. She’s one of only five black students at her school. Check. All her friends have straight hair and that’s what she wants. Check. She has an
overly friendly mom. Check. She’s a little awkward. Check.
And to top it off at the end of our conversation the 18 year old “me” asked where the cooler with the alcohol was. (Foreshadowing? But really, lady come get your daughter!)
What I told myself…
If you had the opportunity to talk to your younger self you probably expect something profound would be said. Something so enlightening that you’d have an “Ah Ha” moment and life would become a lot clearer a lot sooner.
That’s not how it went down.
Instead, I found myself on the adult side of the same lectures I avoided at 18. And it was creepy. First, I stated the obvious – stop straightening and relaxing your hair so much it’s starting to get pretty damaged (okay, very damaged). Curly hair is in. I know this from experience girl.
Then, I went the self-esteem route with the – don’t care what people think. Be yourself. Embrace your natural beauty. Stop trying to be something you’re not. Accept your differences.
Sure she agreed with the logic.
But I noticed it was going in one ear and out the other. And she flat out told me she planned to continue her damaging hair methods in the pursuit of bone straight hair.
Wow, Taylor. Great advising.
Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda is #Dead
It’s not the girl’s fault. Just like it’s not our fault for being the way we were back then.
It’s useless to reflect on your past life and think, gosh darn it if only I had known this one thing before skipping Paris (yes, this is a reference to The Hills). Even with the right knowledge it’s doubtful it would change anything about our past because we have to find out for ourselves.
Your “Ah Ha” moments come with experience.
I tried fruitlessly to knock
myself her on the head with the information that would change my her life perspective at 18. Clearly, she was not trying to hear it.
Now, the advice I gave her had nothing to do with how to market a business, make more money or save more money. But, I’m pretty sure I would have been as stubborn in the past if the conversation were about any of these topics.
So, what advice do I have for the younger me?
Learn from the process. What you’re doing now is going to make you successful in the future.
I encourage you to do the same. If you beat yourself up about mistakes you’ve made in the past – forgive yourself.
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