It seems every time I sit down to write a post a song lyric pops into my head that relates to what I want to dig into. This one compliments of PartyNextDoor. 🙂
Before I jump into a little back story:
The goal with everything I write is to be helpful.
Always. So I’m letting you in on one of my struggles.
Every so often, I fall into bouts of stuck-ness.
Moments in time where I do a lot of thinking and not much doing.
Do you know that feeling?
It’s easy to get stuck in your own head, overthink, compare yourself to others, and succumb to shiny object syndrome when there’s always a brand new product poppin’ up to revolutionize your life and money.
It all makes you second guess your purpose.
And when you rethink your purpose every moment of the day you make no real progress.
I’m here to tell you:
If you’re comparing your results to someone else and falling short, you’re not a failure.
If you’re doing what feels like the same thing others are doing and you’re still not seeing results, there’s not something wrong with you.
The problem is discovering a strategy that helps you excel and run with it to move forward.
Here’s how I know:
My Professional Rollercoaster Ride
I thought something was wrong with me for a while.
On paper, I was doing everything right in my business. I was getting clients. People liked my work.
I even was balls to the wall when I first started.
It never failed, though.
Whenever I hit a milestone or experimented with a way to take it to the next level, I would fall back.
In between spurts of energy, I felt stagnant and stuck.
I wasn’t being consistent.
I started getting a sketchy vibe from some online business sales tactics and programs I felt were unethical.
I was subconsciously concerned some of it would rub off on me and I would build a business I didn’t feel proud of. So I just stopped doing stuff entirely.
I noticed at one point I was turning down more jobs than taking them. I was coming up with ideas and then ditching them. I questioned my work ethic.
I couldn’t help noticing the same tendencies in my past college and professional life. I worked my butt off in school to finish strong. I hunted down and landed pretty bomb internships and then jobs after college.
But, I left each one.
Don’t get me wrong, I tried to stay in positions for as long as I could.
I wanted desperately to save face. I noticed some parallels forming between my past life and business. The stops and starts. I didn’t really know where to go next.
Until I took the Myer’s Briggs personality test and shiite started to make sense.
My brain became less sticky.
The Personality Test – *Dum, Dum, Dum*
The Myer’s Briggs test is super nifty.
I honestly don’t know how they’ve come up with a test so accurate. It breaks down personalities into a spectrum.
There are 16 personality types. And you get your personality type by choosing your preferences in certain areas like extraversion/introversion and thinking/feeling.
Here they are in more detail from Myersbriggs.org:
- Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I).
- Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).
- Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).
- Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).
After you choose your preferences the letters together make up your personality type. You can read what your type is all about at 16personalities.com.
(Don’t worry this isn’t an affiliate link. Not plugging the website. I just like it that much.)
16personalities.com has a free test you can take instead of choosing your letters which I think is a liiiiiittle more helpful.
This site isn’t the “real” Myer’s Briggs test, though. If you want very detailed test results you’ll have to purchase the test.
The Connection Between Your Personality and Life
I found out my type is INFP – introvert, intuitive, feeling, perceiving – and it was like a eureka moment.
The overview of the personality on the site directly reflects each of my strong and weak points.
And most importantly it gives me some clues on why I overthink certain things so I can make adjustments.
The test is so accurate I creep out when I read it.
INFP’s are known to be highly idealistic pursuing careers for satisfaction instead of money and hop around hunting for the right fit.
Some hopping around for their entire life without settling down <- This thought is petrifying by the way.
But when passionate about something, INFP’s will go all in and can be highly focused on projects of the moment.
At times, they take idealism too far leading to disappointment (i.e. not sticking with things of the moment if they’re not meeting satisfaction expectations).
INFP’s are creative and good at expressing themselves in writing. Speaking isn’t their thang.
At first, I had mixed thoughts about getting this personality type. I wanted to take the test again and get something else.
It’s not the flashy entrepreneur, super organized manager, amazing leader or one that makes the most money on the spectrum.
(In fact, there are forums that focus on how terrible it is to be an INFP on a never ending chase for meaning.)
Still, since taking the test at the beginning of the year, I have much more of an understanding, appreciation and acceptance for how I operate and how I can turn it into opportunities for making money.
The clarity is amazing.
For example, when it comes to building up my own site and brand, I’m good at networking one-on-one and online. Seriously, if you meet me one-on-one you’ll swear I’m an extrovert.
But I’m not that person who’s super comfortable with huge audiences speaking in person or video.
At least not yet. I plan to work on it.
That’s OK for me.
I’m a writer. I can perfect writing first and then move on from there.
Why I’m Sharing All of This With You
I gave you a lot of backstory here.
Some of it personal. Some of it you may judge me for.
I just want you to know if you’re thinking, “what’s wrong with me,” you’re not the only one.
If your body is resisting the moves that you “want to make” maybe those aren’t the right moves for you.
Not just in business, but in life, relationships, at your day job, etc.
You don’t need to bang your head against the wall if you’re not excelling at something you wish you could.
Maybe you’re wasting your potential on something that’s not the right fit.
I read the book Leap by Tess Vigeland which I recommend. She was a successful radio personality that took the leap from a cushy, six-figure job with no Plan B and felt similar struggles.
If she, a well known personality with tons of connections, can relate to the ups and down of finding where you fit into the puzzle, we’re in good company.
Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole is frustrating as hell.
Skip that step.
Take the personality test to find out what approach you should take to your life.
It’s not a perfect science — I get that.
But… try it anyway, friend.
Looking for more posts on motivation? Check these out:
- How to Overcome Disappointment When You Fail
- How to Persevere When Naysayers Don’t Want You to Succeed
- 25 Inspiration Quotes to Keep You Motivated Through Fear, Failure, and Foes
- How to Get Motivated When You’re in a Slump
- 10 Inspirational Blog Posts to Read When You’re Ready to Give Up on Your Business
- How to Finally Move Out of Your Hometown
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