How to Overcome Disappointment When You Fail

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So, here’s the deal.

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We all want to squeeze the most out of life.

We want to do more, save more, make more, live more, and be more.

Setting goals is necessary when you’re trying to do any of the above.

We all know this.

I mean we’ve learned it in tons of college courses and ridiculously boring employee training seminars.

However, setting the wrong goals and failing can actually do more harm to your psyche than good.

If you’re feeling disappointed from not reaching a goal, read this before being too hard on yourself.

Why Setting Too Ambitious Goals Can Suck the Life Out of You

If you’ve set a goal and you haven’t measured up or your progress is creeping at a snail’s pace, don’t think there’s something wrong with you.

It’s nothing personal.

There’s something wrong with the goal and your plan of action.

I call it the reality factor.

I’ve gotten hit hard with the reality stick many times through the last few years until I wised-up recently.

Writing down hu-mongo goals for your life, career, and finances at the beginning of the year feels fabulous and invigorating initially.

But reality tends to kick in around June and then things start to look really sad at the end of the year.

You discover you’re nowhere near close to the goal you set and you feel like an utter failure in all areas of life.

It. is. depressing.

The story doesn’t end there.

To feel better about yourself, you set another ambitious goal promising to work harder, and the cycle repeats itself.

I was on this hamster wheel until the end of last year before I realized that to set realistic goals we must acknowledge:

  • Our plan of action
  • Our current habits and how our habits need to change to meet our goal
  • Our current resources and the additional resources necessary to meet our goal

After putting these factors into perspective, you may discover that the goals you set for yourself are not practical based on your current knowledge, routine, resources, and circumstances.

Maybe you’re a new parent, you’re financially supporting your own parent, you’re the only one earning income in your household, you’re going through a divorce, you’re suffering from job loss, you’re a spend-a-holic…the list goes on.

If you set big and unrealistic goals without taking into account the whole picture (time, commitment, funds, resources, knowledge), you will fall short.

And it’s very hard to push on and be positive/inspired/motivated when you’re constantly disappointed at your lack of progress.

So, before being hard on yourself, reassess how realistic your goals (or resolutions if you call them that) are to protect yourself from yourself.

Because I swear, no one bullies us more than we bully ourselves when we feel like we’re not measuring up to our own expectations.

You may recognize that you’ll make smaller progress than you’d hope this year, but taking action is taking action.

And repeating these acts over years will get you somewhere, fam.

Remember, you’re not personally a failure.

The circumstances at this time are not creating the environment that you need to reach the goal.

But, you will get there!


Are your goals money related?

A budget is the most important part of your plan.

Without tracking your money and intentionally allocating money into the right areas, meeting money goals is, quite frankly, impossible.

Trust me, becoming financially free enough to do the things in life you want to do won’t materialize out of thin air.

I’ve already tried that.

Learn how to set attainable money goals and how to create a spending plan here.

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Taylor K. Gordon is a writer and money blogger. She writes on how to live your best life without going broke.

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