How to Persevere When Naysayers Don’t Want You to Succeed


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(Last Updated On: February 28, 2019)
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Usually, people show us mad love. But I want to talk to you about the people who don’t show you any love. I’m talking about the naysayers.

The people who don’t want you to succeed. The people who have nothing nice to say when you tell them your dreams.

The people who have nothing nice to say when they notice you making moves, being productive, and putting in the work career-wise or money-wise to upgrade your lifestyle.

They usually make smart comments disguised as “jokes” about what you’re doing to make you feel small. And if you ever slip up in the journey, somehow they sense it and swoop in out of nowhere to say, “I told you so.”

You know who I’m talking about. You’re probably picturing them in your head. right. this. second. These are the type of people who will suck the positive energy and motivation out of your spirit like a dementor.

(Harry Potter fans know the reference.) Remembering the underlying “why” behind getting your money + life together is a huge way to stay motivated through trials and tribulations.

But we can’t deny that people around us are an important piece of the puzzle. Because, let’s be real — negativity around you is a downer.


How to Set Yourself Free From Negative Energy

Should you dump all of your not-so-supportive friends and acquaintances?

No way, let’s not get too overzealous here. These friends are usually the fun ones you do wild and crazy things with on the weekends. They are very necessary.

What you can do instead is be careful who you share your special goals and plans with. Let only a few, or even one, trusted person in on your inner most desires. That’s what I’ve learned to do financially and professionally.

My friend Antoinette has listened to every single one of my crazy ideas and goals since college. Even my weird goal of writing an urban fiction novel (if you don’t know what that is think Fabio type romance novels but with rappers).

Does she think some of the things I say are over the top?

Most definitely. But she listens, we laugh, she gives practical input, and then she stays crazy supportive. That’s the type of person to confide in to keep you motivated while taking control of your money and life.

Find someone like her who’ll have your back.

And screw the naysayers.

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